Congrats! You Are An… Enneagram 4
The Enneagram is known as The Individualist or Romantic
Traits Of The Four: Artistic, Emotional, Expressive, Quirky, Melancholy, Creative, Humorous, Likeable, Eccentric, Whimsical, Questioning, Headstrong, Enthusiastic, Selfless
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Core Desire: Importance
Being an enneagram 4 means you were raised to believe you weren’t enough as you are. So now, as an adult, you have a strong desire to be important to the world and you try hard to cultivate a sense of self and identity. You do this by associating with social groups, identifying with the things you do, or being hyper-independent and telling yourself you “don’t fit in” with any group.
In childhood, you were taught that you had to be special to be valuable.
Because of this core desire, you struggle the most with feeling unimportant, unworthy, and invaluable.
4’s can take on many different personality traits and appearances. The 4 can commonly appear like a 7 and a 2 (their stress number).
In the first example, the 4 appear to be the life of the party. People would describe this 4 as impulsive, a daredevil, or the class clown. However, the 4 differs from the 7 in the sense that they also have a selfless and disciplined side of them.
Or, the 4 can commonly be seen helping friends in need, lending a hand, or self-sacrificing for the sake of someone or something else.
In the end, all 4s have one part of them that is best described as quirky. The 4 appears to have a strong sense of self, owns their different perspectives on life (even if it doesn’t make them popular), and confidently shares the things they enjoy even if that makes them different
At your worst, the enneagram 4 becomes selfless, self-sacrificing, controlling, and bitter because they can’t say “no” when people ask for help. Taking on the negative traits of the Enneagram 2, the stressed 4 loses sight of their desires, represses their needs, and becomes resentful towards others since they gave too much to them.
At your best, the Enneagram 4 incorporates discipline, intention, and fairness. They take on the healthy traits of the Enneagram 1 by acting from a balanced emotional standpoint and giving equal time to themselves and others.
Does this sound like you?
- Learn More About The Enneagram 4 Personality
- Find Out if You Have A Dominant Wing 3 or Wing 5?
- Learn What an Enneagram 2 Looks Like in Stress vs Growth
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